Top 5 Wednesday is a weekly book meme hosted by Sam of Thoughts on Tomes on YouTube. Here is the link for the Goodreads group where you can find the list of topics and such.
This weeks topic is: Books For Your Younger Self
2. Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell
University is scary. Entering any new educational setting or even a job is terrifying. I can't explain how scared I was to start University. I was going to be older than most of the other students and I knew no-one at all. Fangirl taught me that fear is healthy to a point. It's a means of survival but it shouldn't force you into hiding into your room shoving breakfast bars into your mouth because you're afraid of the cafeteria. I adore this book.
Younger Katie. Feminism isn't a bad word. It's how it gets used, you are a feminist because you believe that a woman can be just as strong as a man, but you're also an advocate for men's mental health. Seriously, look up the statistics on male suicide. It's terrifying and the phrase 'man up' needs abolishing. This book would've made me fight against so many things when I was younger. Like the fact that I wasn't allowed to officially join the school badminton team even though I was bloody good at it. Must admit, that now grates on me. This book quite frankly should be required reading. It's fabulous.
Do what makes you happy and when it feels like an obligation theres something wrong. The act of creating for my younger self was so cathartic but at times it started to feel as though if I wasn't creating I was a failure. The fact I'd try to write a story and it wouldn't be perfect and worthy of a film franchise and it's own theme park straight away was soul destroying. I finally understood those feeling when I read Eliza and Her Monsters. That unless you love what you're doing there isn't a point. I started to love what I was writing, admittedly this is only a few months ago but I wish I'd read this so much sooner.
Your sexuality is yours and yours alone. Take no notice of the people that make a comment on if you're showing too much skin or too little because frankly you cannot win. This is a world in which when sexual assault is mentioned and the first questions are "were you drunk?" or "what were you wearing?" not "are you okay?" or "how can we help?". The Exact Opposite of Okay* celebrates sexuality all round be it male, female or in terms of the LGBTQ spectrum. It doesn't beat around the bush and fully exploits the ridiculous double standard present in our society for young woman and men. So, I will wear the jeans I think my bum looks great and I will be wearing them for me. I put makeup on because I enjoy it not because I'm on the hunt for a suitor.
Wear your intelligence like a suit of armour because I promise you it is going to be your best friend one day. Ignore the name calling, the pestering and society subliminally telling you that intelligence isn't attractive. It is. But thats not the only thing it is. It's empowering and fun. When you can enter into a conversation about the best historians if you're researching the Holocaust, gender roles in Virginia Woolf's Orlando or write an essay about the art of drag and include Schrodinger's cat, Shakespeare and the X-Men you will feel unstoppable. Oh, and intelligence is sexy. The lovely guy you'll end up dating has agreed it is, and was thrilled when you knew what the benefit of rolling a lemon was and cling filming a large spoon when dealing with mash is the only option. I wish I had met Audrey Rose Wadsworth when I was in highschool. I would've felt an awful lot more confident.